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12 Feb 2008 @ 15:41, by Enocia Joseph

There's been a lot of focus on the "Law of Attraction"; some have even called it a "secret." The "Law of Attraction" is no secret. Solomon, King of Israel, made this realisation thousands of years ago:

"For as he thinketh in his heart so is he." -- Proverbs 23: 7

In other words, one attracts what one believes or thinks about the most. Here are a few examples of the Law of Attraction in my life experience.

Yesterday evening while I was at the bookshop and enjoying the tranquillity, a man sat next to me. He took out his mobile phone and made a phone call. He had a booming voice. For a split second I wondered why I had attracted that experience then I remembered how much I love listening to the Italian language. My friend beside me was speaking fluent Italian just for me. I probably would have taken offence if he was speaking English. Haha.

This morning I left home half an hour earlier than usual. I got on a bus I don't even normally travel on. At one bus stop I noticed this man coming out of a shop and rushing to catch the bus I was on. I had a thought that he would have to hurry if he was going to catch it. It was then I realised I knew him. I went out with him a few years back but I didn't pursue it because I didn't feel we were compatible. Why was I attracting him now? When he came upstairs he looked for an available seat. He didn't even notice me and was about to walk past me, but I grabbed his arm and invited him to sit next to me. He smiled and seemed happy to see me. I asked him how he was and what he'd been up to. He said he was very busy with work. I told him I saw a news item on television recently about Turkey. It was about a ban that had been lifted that enables women at universities to wear Islamic headscarves. Given how much freedom people have in this country to express their religious beliefs, the news report made little sense to me. I could see why I had attracted my friend. He's from Turkey and he works in the field of human rights. He told me that during the ban Muslim women who wanted to wear headscarves while attending university had to travel abroad to places like the UK to study, which costs a fortune. It was lovely seeing my friend again.

After I got off that bus I caught another one and chose a seat upstairs. The guy behind me started singing the chorus to the Justin Timberlake song "Cry Me a River." I knew exactly why he was singing that song at that moment. A few nights ago I watched Dancing on Ice, where celebrities are paired off with professional skaters and compete in front of judges. In that particular show the best celebrity skater, in my opinion, performed to the song "Cry Me a River." I forgot to watch who got voted off at the end but I had an incline who it was. I've been meaning to check the website to confirm my intuition. I believe the man on the bus was reminding me to check the website.

My point is that the Law of Attraction is at work in all aspects of life. The only snag with the Law of Attraction is that it's not going to tell me if an experience is "good" or "bad", it simply attracts experiences that resonate with whatever thoughts, beliefs and feelings I am focused on. Put another way, the Law of Attraction is the equivalent of when scientists discovered they could split the atom, which can be used in a positive or negative way. If I want to experience a life of what I consider good, I'm going to have to discipline my thoughts and feelings so they do match what I want to experience otherwise it's a disaster.

If it's so simple to focus only on what I believe, why do people still get sick, grow old and die? Why have I not achieved bodily perfection? Actually I have achieved perfection and I haven't; it depends on how you want to see it.

For a long time now I've felt like there are two versions of me. There is the Me that is living in perfect harmony and perfect peace; and the me that is on a rollercoaster ride who is in perfect health one minute and sick the next. I believe that it's because the me that is having the rollercoaster believes in the "law of attraction" and the "law of opposites attract." I see these conflicted beliefs prevalent in society.

For instance, doctors devote their whole lives studying how to get the body in health. Hang on a minute! If health/harmony is my natural state of being, why would I attract disharmony? Unless I believe in the "law of opposites attract." This belief influences my body to feel disharmony on the one hand; while my natural state of being encourages the body to be in harmony on the other hand. When my focus is on the "law of opposites attract" that law gets to rule my body. If I want my body to be in perfect harmony, I'm going to have to release that false belief in "opposites attract", an implant that is preventing me from being my True Self. The good news is there's a very easy way of letting go of that belief. Here's one such example.

Many years ago I had come to a crossroad in life where I either had to do what I was doing and remain the same or take a leap of faith and trust in my True Self. At the time I had no money, no home, no boyfriend, nothing. I was in a real crisis. That was when I moved in with my mother which turned out to be where I needed to be. I was feeling great fear at the time and in deep depression. As a Christian, my mother used to watch a lot of religious programmes on television. I would watch them with her even though I wasn't really into them. I kept hearing how powerful Psalm 91 was. I decided to study it to see what the fuss was about. The first few lines are as follows:

1: He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.

2: I will say of the LORD, He is my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust.

3: Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, and from the noisome pestilence. Psalm 91

The Psalm is basically saying that when you trust in God, Spirit, Love, your True Self, you're protected from the false belief in the "law of opposites attract" which result in all manners of disasters and misfortunes. The rest of the Psalm lists God's promises when you put your faith and trust in God.

I decided to give the Psalm a go. Within an hour I had memorised it. I then started chanting it. I was used to chanting Hari Krishna so chanting Psalm 91 was a piece of cake. I would chant it non-stop when I was travelling, walking, eating, and having a bath. The only time I wasn't chanting was when I was working and needed to focus or when I was asleep. The first thing I noticed was I felt peaceful. After a few days of chanting, one night I woke up feeling queasy which made me retch. While nothing solid came out, I knew I had spewed out something. With my inner vision I could see that I had in fact puked out an etheric form that resembled a lizard. I thought it was the most disgusting thing I'd ever seen. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against lizards- I actually find them quite cute and adorable - but this thing that I had spewed was simply revolting. I believed that "lizard" was an implant whose purpose was to prevent me from being in my peace. After that episode I felt even more peaceful. I never discussed this experience with anyone as I didn't want to be labelled as nuts.

Fast forward a few months later and I got to watch the film The Matrix for the first time. When the film first came out at the cinema I wasn't interested in watching it. It was only 2 or 3 years later when they finally showed it on television that I watched it to see what the fuss was about. The Matrix is about a group of rebels who rescue Neo, a computer hacker, from the Matrix and remind him about the nature of reality. The leader of the rebels believes Neo is the One (the One is an anagram of Neo) who is meant to save humanity from the Matrix that is ruling their lives. When Neo finally agrees to join the rebels, an implant, appearing in the form of a lizard, is removed from the back of his neck.

That lizard looked identical to the etheric lizard I had spewed. That was when I was hooked on the film. While I identify with Neo's character, I don't believe in an external saviour or teacher; I believe I am my own personal saviour and teacher.

Since that lizard episode, I've been on the path of Self-realisation. I've since realised that when I'm in silence I can hear my True Self as an inner sound, which makes me feel very peaceful when I listen to it. It is what is referred to in Psalm 91 as "the secret place of the most high." That "secret place" is of such a high frequency that it dissolves all experiences that are not of its image and likeness. I only get to have experiences that match who I am as my True Self. That's why I can attract someone speaking in loud Italian and not be bothered because I love Italian. I've also discovered that while I'm listening to the inner sound, I cannot think "negative thoughts" or feel angry. It is impossible. In other words, the "law of opposites attract" does not exist in Reality.

What happened when I was chanting Psalm 91 was it helped me to be my True Self, which repels any experience that is not its image and likeness. So in that respect, Psalm 91 is very powerful. However, what the Psalm offers is always going to be temporary. If I want to experience my Sanctuary at all times, I'm going to have to make that Sanctuary my permanent place of resident. You could say that's what spiritual awakening is all about.

To recap,

Life cannot attract death unless I believe it can.
Health cannot attract sickness unless I believe it can.
Abundance cannot attract lack unless I believe it can.
Perfection cannot attract imperfection unless I believe it can.
Love cannot attract fear unless I believe it can.

When I believe in the "law of opposites attract" I appear to be living two different lives: one who is in complete peace and harmony; and one who experiences life as disharmony and conflicts. My life experiences depend on where I focus my attention.

Incidentally, while I was pondering on these ideas, I noticed the bus I had got on said 243 in front and 123 on the side. I asked the driver which route was correct and he said it was route 243 and I should ignore the number on the side. The morning was quite foggy as well. For me the bus represents what happens when you're in conflict, life is very foggy and confusing. The best course of action is to focus only on the number ahead which is the True Self.

There is only the True Self which attracts experiences that are in harmony with who S/HE is and repels anything that is unlike Self.

I am Self.


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Following are two versions of Psalm 91. I've memorised the King James version.

1: He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.

2: I will say of the LORD, He is my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust.

3: Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, and from the noisome pestilence.

4: He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler.

5: Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night; nor for the arrow that flieth by day;

6: Nor for the pestilence that walketh in darkness; nor for the destruction that wasteth at noonday.

7: A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; but it shall not come nigh thee.

8: Only with thine eyes shalt thou behold and see the reward of the wicked.

9: Because thou hast made the LORD, which is my refuge, even the most High, thy habitation;

10: There shall no evil befall thee, neither shall any plague come nigh thy dwelling.

11: For he shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways.

12: They shall bear thee up in their hands, lest thou dash thy foot against a stone.

13: Thou shalt tread upon the lion and adder: the young lion and the dragon shalt thou trample under feet.

14: Because he hath set his love upon me, therefore will I deliver him: I will set him on high, because he hath known my name.

15: He shall call upon me, and I will answer him: I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him, and honour him.

16: With long life will I satisfy him, and shew him my salvation. Psalm 91, King James Version


1 Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.

2 They say of the LORD, "He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust."

3 Surely he will save you from the fowler's snare and from the deadly pestilence.

4 He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.

5 You will not fear the terror of night, nor the arrow that flies by day,

6 nor the pestilence that stalks in the darkness, nor the plague that destroys at midday.

7 A thousand may fall at your side, ten thousand at your right hand, but it will not come near you.

8 You will only observe with your eyes and see the punishment of the wicked.

9 If you say, "The LORD is my refuge," and you make the Most High your dwelling,

10 no harm will overtake you, no disaster will come near your tent.

11 For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways;

12 they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.

13 You will tread on the lion and the cobra; you will trample the great lion and the serpent.

14 "Because they love me," says the LORD, "I will rescue them; I will protect them, for they acknowledge my name.

15 They will call on me, and I will answer them; I will be with them in trouble, I will deliver them and honor them.

16 With long life I will satisfy them and show them my salvation." Psalm 91, New International Version

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14 Feb 2008 @ 18:51 by jazzolog : Reaction Attraction it possible to turn it around? One may watch in amazement as the traffic lights change to green as one approaches and goes through. One has attracted this good fortune---if one happens to be hurrying along at the moment (and not in need of respite at a red light). How about changing the lights to green when one wishes? What is the nature of the leap?  

15 Feb 2008 @ 14:41 by vector8 : Traffic lights
[[How about changing the lights to green when one wishes? What is the nature of the leap? ]

I believe the leap is realising that there is only ONE i.e. you, just like there is only one and each of us is experiencing Newciv from our vantage point.

When you know that there is only YOU then things work out perfectly for you; and what's perfect for you is always perfect for everyone else. This means there might be times when a red light is simply YOU slowing yourself down for your own good.

I had an experience recently when I saw three buses in a row on the other side of the road but some cars appeared and prevented me from crossing the road. It turned out Big ENOCIA wanted me to catch the fourth bus for a very good reason; I ended up meeting a passenger who was able to answer a question I'd been wondering about the day before. After chatting to her she told me it was the most fun bus journey she'd had in a long while. See

Enjoy being YOU.

With love,

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