New Civilization News: How to kindle life.    
 How to kindle life.4 comments
19 Feb 2006 @ 19:50, by N Marion Hage

All who breathe are living; but not all the living are alive; at least not in the sense that they are enjoying the breath they were given.

If every parent had wisdom and insight and the character to raise children, they would set them on a course toward success. Success is measured by realizing our purpose, and fulfilling that purpose. If I realized my gift, which many people do not, I would be happier for one; but I'd also know how to structure my life.

Humans have to have dreams or we stagnate; and what I mean by a dream is a sense that there is a destiny and purpose; and if we know it, we can take steps towards that goal.

Every "real" dream is going to face roadblocks. The way to success is not paved with pillows. It's often rocky and there are adversaries; and because of that, if we forget we have a dream or don't know what it is, we will wind up in a life of futility.

Futility is expending a great deal of energy and going nowhere. It is the most frustrating feeling, "My life is meaningless and empty; it's a tedious existance."

So if we know we have a gift and a purpose, and a big dream, we are halfway to where we are going, and way ahead of most of the people in the world.

Since few people have wise, mature, parents, ones filled with character who help their children realize their strengths and that they should reach for the stars, dreams get squelched, and some people don't have a clue that they even have a gift, let alone what that gift is.

And since this is reality, it is one of the great gifts in life to be someone who understands and knows how to kindle life in another. In a sense it is within us to breathe life into others so that their dormant gifts are realized and dreams are birthed.

How? Most screwed up people don't need anyone to tell them they are screwed up. Enough people in this world have said, "What's wrong with you?" In fact, when they screw up, they've probably said, "What's wrong with me?"

And they may put up defenses and pretend things are going well when they aren't, but mostly because they've been beaten down. If someone told me I'd never be good at anything, and everything I do falls apart, I start to expect that things will fall apart, and in effect, walk around sabotaging myself.

In order to breathe life, we have to comprehend that it's necessary, that most people don't like feeling trapped in meaningless existance. But we also have to get a sence of what gifts are.

What are kinds of gifts? Well, some are teachers, by nature. However, there are many spheres where teaching is needed. Others administrators by nature, the kind of people who know how to put people in all the right places, watch over details, and organize. Some people are meant to help identify problems and solve them, and in the sense, they are watchmen over society, to help keep things on course. Still others find their meaning in helping people in a variety of ways, planning and performing all the necessary tasks that every function requires. Some have a gift of hospitality, refreshers of souls who can identify others needs, and know what things will encourage them. There are artistic gifts, gardening gifts, and I mean people who think in creative ways how to make everyone's life better, not simply laborers.

Gifts are expressed in countless ways according to natural interests. One teaches children, another college, and yet another may be a motivational speaker. There is no lack of places teachers are needed. Likewise an administrator can also be a movie producer if he has an artistic bent. So, gifts can be expressed outside the box.

We are not happy if we are not using our gifts. In a sense we are always swimming upstream and never with the currents. Life is tedious and boring and we get frustrated because we may be doing what is counter to our nature.

I may be smart in some ways, but I get flustered if asked to organize anything. Yet there are some who can organize an event blind-folded.

In a sense, each one of us is meant to be part of a bigger whole, a community where no one is expendible. And so we all benefit when people find their place.

Once we are aware that people are gifted, in some cases we end up taking the place of perhaps dysfunctional parents by telling people when we realize they have a gift. Now that gift may not seem important to them, because we tend to dismiss whatever we are good at. And so, there is some selling involed, in the sense of saying, "No, you are not common. If I tried to do what you do, it would be impossible. What you do is an art, a gift, and you simply need to learn how to use that.

Next, think big, and work from there. If I can teach, which I believe I can; I may be content telling a room filled with six people how to tie shoes. But since so many others can do that, I want to dream bigger.

When we sense someone has an amazing gift, we need to tell them, and sometimes birth a dream. "Boy, you are so much more talented than most should be speaking in front of audiences..." or "You are always able to identify problems and come up with solutions, you shouldn't be a secretary, you should be an administrator.."

Now this may require a change in our bents because we might be more prone to telling people what is wrong with them rather than what is right with them, and may think by telling someone what is wrong we are doing them a big favor. If someone isn't where they should be, they likely already know it. And it is so much better to kindle a hope than to dash one.

When people are hopeless, and someone births a hope in them, they appreciate it. That person might say something that changes someone's life from an obscure life of frustration to a life of fulfillment.


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30 Dec 2015 @ 01:24 by lili @ :
Right now convene guerrilla officers above the lecture, I do not leak to inform the gravity of the situation:" Our army is the enemy is three thousand two thousand two, one thousand two hundred people which had just defeated rush back if they can not muster morale. Our army will be in a rush that is +. But the enemy is not the best advantage. They are very hungry people, and from here raid five miles away, in fact, to seize a retreat to escape the mouth of the road when Jinshan more important thing is to aim at the idea that the army food. this fight, in fact, we are wait at Plaza, in order to keep the pending attack. Compare the total strength, we are bitter win situation. Iqe The stockade is not strong, not as entrenched barriers. But here you can stop him, surely, to play for a while, calmly retreated Weiqing temple, now put all food transported north Huo Wei Qing temple temple temple Weiqing enemy to immediately burned barn, contusion enemy confidence can Weiqing Temple tied even if confidence in the victory parade. If the situation is still unfavorable, the army retreated Huo Temple, sticking granary and protect water resources. at most two days, the West Army will return to aid the army, in the possession of the fish card to Rob Dan growing together and annihilate the remnants! 'Layout complete, the military orders, I changed to the left wing of the army! Smell Guelph army to the right, leaving only a dozen strong bodyguard and color Le, who ran with me to act. I look at the whole military deployment, the two-door red cannon mounted on front of the temple flag Weiqing pier. it is necessary to do something to fight the personnel, but also to listen to heaven. I then horde of heart, nothing Guaai, actually in the main hall in the temple Weiqing sleep a sleep. The efficacy slept far better than the top of a large piece speech, people already messed up, hear me loud snoring, settle down all of a sudden!Dawn, fish card Walled southeast desolate horn sounded twice, and then they came masi people cry. I suddenly woke up too dim in left and right wings, everything is calculated within. Just so eager to drive the enemy Bing tired of me winning, somewhat unexpected. Abucidan Rob Tibetan Tenzin given them a good general, Rob military army collapse, except his team formed a complete, showing its military forces is evident. how this reckless like a drunkard, Zhaoyan quite blindly fight but then I thought, will understand:?. Kunshouyoudou enemy, death is only the Ebucidan this desperate Jinshan I also worry when the army return to aid fish card, like suddenly swallow the army, occupied Iqe to wait at Plaza battle he fought back reinforcements, military commander taboo guilty anyway, breaking persistent difficult, so my life around in unison shouted 'Ake Village reinforcements have killed back! - - brothers kill ah '!Enemy flurry, I do not know what a commotion and barking, offensive and more anxious in my life to support the temple's two-door red cannon Weiqing transferred to, personally directed the gunner: 'It seems no need to retreat to second-line, and you my aim - and! Zhaimen a break, two cannons boom, the head lay a gun, I immediately promote you, '"the two gunners aiming and aiming, just ready, wooden village gate has been torn down flat row ! Suddenly I do not know how many horses in the dust bowl rolling rushed to the Village. In this case also, two cannons roar in unison, really a head-start fireworks, immediately rushed to the enemy soldiers and horses like wheat harvest fell one place!Ebucidan these really brave soldiers, two guns and did not deter him, stop for the moment to rush up shouting right again. I left and the right side of the commandment to divide our forces to rescue the army, while the drawn sword in command Army ready to bayonet charge. My cannon then fought SANKYO will be irrelevant. In this case surrounded Zhaoyan enemy. color Le Ben brothers from me into the Qinghai has been around with me, I had not prepared to let They fight the battle. At this point they all bow his sword into the bayonet charge.


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