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 I'd Rather Be Grateful, Thank You!6 comments
15 Oct 2005 @ 10:16, by Enocia Joseph

Recently for three days in a row, the Internet was down at the library where I usually post my work. The library staff said we should all complain. I said it was not my style to complain, which I believe negates the excellent service I always receive. The library staff insisted that they are supposed to provide efficient service all the time. They believed their IT department was not going to take the problems seriously unless more people complained. Someone shoved a complaint form in my hands. I took it with me and dumped it in the bin.

I have noticed companies have "suggestions" boxes and complaints forms, but I've never seen an appreciation box. I wonder why?

We seem to live in a whining society where it is believed complaining will get you the desired results. I don't believe in complaining. When I complain I'm focusing my attention on faults which manifests more of the same. Let's say I bought something that was faulty, I'll simply return it and either ask for my money back or exchange it for another product.

People perform better when they are appreciated. Focus on someone's "bad" behaviour and that's all you'll see, which doesn't give the other person room to be more. If you have nothing good to say about someone, focus on someone you have something good to say about; or say nothing.

But how is society going to improve if you don't complain or make suggestions? I know from experience that what I put my attention on is magnified. I would rather give my attention to all the good work and excellent service I receive; I also know that everyone is always doing the best they can based on beliefs and environment.

Take what is happening globally such as natural disasters, wars and attacks. Governments, religions, scientists, and the media spend so much energy focused on the worst and when it happens, governments says "We were right to warn our nationals about an attack, see it has happened!" Religion responds "We knew this would happen; it is that prophecy come true!" Scientists say "It is just as we predicted; we were right!" As for the media, well disasters are their bread and butter anyway. Of course they are all right. If you focus your energy on the worst, it happens.

Everyone has the right to complain. I would rather be grateful for all the good I am receiving, thank you very much.

With love,


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15 Oct 2005 @ 10:46 by scotty : Well said !
I couldn't agree with you more !!
If we remembered to count our blessings more often then we'd realise just how rich we really are - and be even more the richer for it !!  

15 Oct 2005 @ 11:21 by EJ @ : Count our blessings
Hi Scotty,

In agreement with your agreement. :-) As you wrote elsewhere where attention (focus) goes energy flows.  

15 Oct 2005 @ 11:47 by scotty : That's it exactly Enocia
the more we think about what not right the more energy we give to it - feeding it !
Even thinking about what we don't want includes it in our energy .... so - to quote an ol friend of mine " Thoughts become things... choose the good ones!"
( )  

15 Oct 2005 @ 13:03 by Enocia @ : Energy
After the bombing in London, there was this website set up called we're not afraid. I thought at first it was a good idea; I even contributed to it. Then I realised way too much attention was being focused on not being afraid which creates more of the same, so I changed my focus.

Similarly when people focus on natural disasters, they create more of the same. I say why not focus on love, peace and joy and see this happening everywhere?

I'm getting off my soapbox now, I usually reserve homilies for my blogs. :-)

Hey, cheers for the link. Will check it out now.

Love EJ  

15 Oct 2005 @ 14:48 by scotty : I saw that too
and I thought uhoh ! I didn't contribute to it either - for exactly the reasons you cited !
(keep your 'homilies' coming - let's everyone know you more :)  

16 Oct 2005 @ 14:12 by Enocia @ : Getting to know you...
[[(keep your 'homilies' coming - let's everyone know you more :) ]]

Alas, I usually only have time to read and make the occasional post. Besides, if I posted everything I wrote, it will be called Enocia's blog. ;-) I will try and make more homilies when I can. Speaking of which, I might just pop to Hyde Park in London and listen to the experts on their soap boxes; it's a tradition here where every Sunday people come out at Speaker's Corner to preach to people. :-)

newciv is an excellent website. I always enjoy my visits.

Lots of love to all,

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