In our communications we explore and examine the meaning of language and the intention and vibration of words so as to find a bridge which enables all to have clearer communication verbally, spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically. Clearer communication, of course, decreases misunderstandings and it creates intimacy.

The word judgment is a big one for you all. Immediately it implies something determined, something final, something about a person's character, behavior, or belief system, usually in a negative sense. Now, we notice that there seems to be confusion over the terms judgment, discernment, and condemnation. These words and their meanings are what we will focus on and address today.

To judge means to decide. It does not necessarily contain a value of good or bad. Discernment is a fun word because you can play with its meanings. It means to see clearly, distinguish, recognize, have discretion, and be one of good judgment.Dis means before, apart, away, negation, reversal, and is also related to Hades or Pluto. Cern has to do with seeing.
Condemnation is to blame, declare or sentence. For this word, we ask you to consider the idea of "with/for damnation."

What have you noticed about these three words? They all have to do with decisions and start from a neutral position of making a decision, to being able to determine a "good" decision and finish in blame.

These differences in the meanings of the words are important to understand because frequently when the term judgment is used, the person means to say condemnation. Likewise, a person feels condemned when they are being judged. And as you can readily see, the meanings of these words are quite different.

From our perspective, judgment and discernment are positive terms because they enable one to take personal empowerment and responsibility as a creator, examine situations objectively and make choices and decisions which are in the highest good for the Self.

Condemnation primarily has to do with having reached a judgment which denotes blame and ultimately requires a sentence of punishment, some form of retribution. On a general level, with legislation that is agreed upon by consensus, condemnation may serve as a guideline for acceptable behavior in society. It is a message saying one has overstepped boundaries, has not taken personal responsibility and must face the consequences of their actions. We do not condemn your societies for creating this system. It is all within your free will to do so. It is the hope that through this method of societal guidelines, which includes condemnation, that more personal responsibility, the allowance and encouragement of it, will benefit all; not with the limited intention of control, or motivated by fear, but with the idea that there is a more enlightened way to act without harmfully inflicting one's beliefs or emotions upon another - which can result in less condemnation.

On a personal level, condemnation sometimes indicates an unwillingness (of the one condemning) to take personal responsibility - in effect, seeking a scapegoat. It is when these two areas of general and personal become mixed-up where you may encounter some confusion or conflict. When one takes personal responsibility and acts in the highest good for all, starting with their own Self and knowing that each one is responsibile for creating their experiences, one has no need for scapegoats. With the honest and open communication you have with your Self, with love and compassion, you increase the possibility for more of the same with others, which leads to more and more and more.

How does judgment, discernment and condemnation function in your life? Now that you may have a clearer understanding of their meanings, do give it more consideration. How do you normally behave towards others? Are you discerning, judging or condemning? Are you taking personal responsibility and are you fully and freely allowing of others to be who they are and respecting them for same, even if you may not agree with them? Do you recall feeling condemned by others even though a word may not even have passed between you?

We would like to call to your attention the fact that your own judgments, discernments and especially condemnations are perceived by others. Maybe unconsciously, subconsciously or fully consciously...but they ARE perceived. Even when you think you are wearing a great mask that smiles and beams friendship and acceptance, all know that it is still only a mask. Your true feelings are felt regardless of that mask. The energy of condemnation is very powerful.

Know that when you are driving in your car silently observing and condemning a pedestrian or another driver, or walking down the street inwardly condemning the person you see for whatever reason, and yet you say hello to them and smile, they may not respond so kindly to you because they sense and resent your lack of honesty and condemnation of them. Most people do not have the courage yet to confront you directly and ask, "Why do you condemn me?" (Although, if they would, you'd have greater communication, intimacy and compassion.) So, in exchange for your attempts at covering up your real feelings and putting on false airs, they may give you a sour expression or say a few choice harsh words to you. You may be confused and hurt with their behavior towards you - after all, you put on a good show, you smiled to them, said hello. You may even begin to assume that most people are inherently rude because you didn't get the response you had hoped for. Ahhh - maybe that response triggered a strong emotional reaction within you. That means it's time to get more honest with your Self and the outside world.

Realize that your thoughts and feelings are being projected and received. If you are not enjoying the feedback from those who pick up your thoughts and feelings, we suggest transformational inner work with your Self . We ask you to look inside your Self, be discerning, and discover your own habits and patterns in how you may be condemning others without even knowing them. Maybe you feel you have good reason to condemn them - if so, where does that come from, are you playing old tapes and could they still be relevent? Have you been condemning others without being fully conscious of how and when you've been doing it? Do you condemn your Self? How has being one who condemns kept you from having intimacy in your life? Also explore how your own secret agendas from your negative ego can operate - do you act in ways to obtain the illusion of: being accepted, of pleasing others, of being adored, of being a martyr, of being perfect, or in needing to be in control or feel superior - and how they may still be at work.

When you have reached the source of condemnation within your Self, feel compassion for your Self and then for the one you have condemned. Let all the veils drop away and see truth. Seek the commonality. Aren't all just like your Self? Are you all not desiring of love, acceptance, honesty, compassion? The deeper you go into understanding condemnation and compassion within your Self, the deeper you will have the same understanding with and for others. Through honesty, compassion, understanding, self-responsibility, rather than condemnation, you will transform your inner and outer worlds. This will bring you more love, compassion, freedom to be who you are and to allow others to be who they really are thereby creating more beauty and harmony, a composition of many exquisite notes all playing together for the highest good in your universe.

With having shed a little bit more light on the subject of judgment, discernment and condemnation, we now bid you a very good day and wish you all much more love, honesty, self-responsibility, intimacy and joy.

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